I have no doubt in my mind that the vast majority, in my own estimates 90% of interracial relationships that I observe on a regular bases in the city of New York has fetishized under-linings. Let me elaborate on this. The most common mix grouping I witness is that of white males and oriental women. What comes to mind when I observe this coupling is how this man is relieving his yellow fever, his fantasized perception of this far-eastern girl, innocent and soft-spoken creature from the east. This oriental female views her white male lover as having the qualities of being assertive, powerful, masculine, and of course being rich. These associated attributes are of course opposite to the stereotype of oriental men. Who are usually stereotyped as nerdy, effeminate, and weak?
Now I’m not saying that I’m against interracial relationships. It’s quite possible that two people from totally different cultures and backgrounds, can truly just like each other, withstanding the fact that they come from two totally different circumstances. But let us not fool ourselves into believing that when you see for example a black man with a white woman that he and she are not relieving some sought of racialized-sexualized fantasy on their different inter-race partner.
I’ll give you my own experiences with this subject. I can remember conversating with this young Asian woman my freshman year of college who attested to me that she was not a bit attracted to Asian men. Now she wasn’t the only one I would hear this from. Scores of Asian women are involved in interracial relationships primarily with Caucasian men. Don’t take my word for it, look at the statistics on mixed race couples and you’d find Asians (particularly women) are involved in interracial relationships more than any other group.
I feel that if you were never born on this land of blond hair and blue eyes. And you were living the country of your origin whether it be china, japan, Korea. Are you telling me you wouldn’t be involved with anybody, because they don’t possess the physical racial characteristics that you find exotic? We all know the answer to this.
We can’t escape it, we all live in a very Euro-centric world in which whiteness is held on the highest of pedestals.
There are Black women that don’t like black men because they deem white men as more eloquent, kind, and responsible. I once had a conversation with a young black female in which she went on and on of how she was attracted to white men. How they are so nice and kind. My reply to all her compliments on white men where how “I indeed seen many photos of smiling NICE white men, black and white photos with a black body hanging in the background.”
Let’s be frank before everyone gets on the “how great whites are bandwagon”, let’s talk about the history of slavery, imperialism, and violence that caused these Europeans to become so dominate in world affairs.
Now I’m not a racist. I have nothing against white people. I have nothing against anybody, but I have a problem with people saying they are only attracted to one particular race, even if it’s a white woman who loves black men because it comes down to my early argument, its fetishism and the assigning of certain attributes to groups based on their race.
I definitely agree with your post. I think we all need to stop pretending that having a “preference” to certain races over others is not a reflection of ingrained racial stereotypes and prejudices, because it is.
This is the start of an uncomfortable conversation that has a lot of truth to it.
where how “I indeed seen many photos of smiling NICE white men, black and white photos with a black body hanging in the background.”
You are college educated? No offense, but I think you need to proof read your posts, or take more English classes. I’m very suprised English is your first language.
As you can tell from this post, I’m not particularly skilled at writing or using correct grammar. Unfortunately for me high education wasn’t an option. Still huge grammatical errors really jump out at me from your writing, and a lot of your vocabulary seems forced. You frequently jump between formal and informal speech and it gives the impression that you are just using the synonym button in word.